Rationalising Emotions
Summary
Constantly analysing emotions can become a way of avoiding them, turning sadness, anger or disappointment into a problem to solve. Real healing may begin by allowing feelings to exist without immediately trying to explain them away.
Key Points
- Intellectualisation can make people focus on the logic behind emotions instead of actually feeling them.
- Understanding why you feel a certain way can be useful, but it can also lead to dismissing or bypassing emotions.
- The piece argues that emotional intelligence includes allowing yourself to feel sadness, anger, disappointment and grief without overthinking.
- Healing may start by accepting emotions first and figuring out the reasons later.
